Tuesdays with Morrie
by Mitch Albom
Published in 1997
I decided to make this as my first book to share because the lessons I learned never fade. It’s something everyone should know and learn by heart.
– A.D.I. ♥
The story was narrated by Mitch Albom himself. One day after receiving his diploma, he decided to approach his professor, Morrie Schwartz. He attended most of his Sociology classes and promised to keep in touch, but sadly he was not able to fulfill his promise.
Years after graduation, Morrie had to stop dancing because he was diagnosed with ALS, or amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, is a progressive neurodegenerative disease that affects nerve cells in the brain and the spinal cord. (The ALS Association ©2015) Despite his condition, he insisted to continue teaching in the university.
After 16 years, Mitch felt frustrated in the life he has, after so much struggles he chose to be a journalist in Detroit newspaper. One day, he saw his professor on national television and decided to visit him in Massachusetts.
Mitch returns regularly every Tuesday to listen to Morrie’s lessons on “The Meaning of Life.”
Let me share you lines that are worth reading.
*First Tuesday – World
Morrie quotes Levine, saying, “Love is the only rational act.” He told Mitch that the most important thing in life is how to give out love and how to let it come in.
* Second Tuesday – Feeling Sorry for Yourself
Morrie told him a story about a class exercise. He has asked his class to perform a trust fall exercise, in which the students test one another’s trust and reliability by doing trust falls; one student will fall straight backwards and must rely on another student to catch them. No one finished the exercise.
“You see, . . . you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too — even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”
Sometimes trusting people seems to be the hardest, but it’s our risk to take. He says that trust is blind. ‘One can only judge whether or not to trust another based on an instinctive feeling, not because of any rational judgment or method of thinking.’
* Third Tuesday – Regrets
Morrie told him that people are not busy thinking about regrets, but are most focused on career, money, the mortgage, a nice car. I must agree, and sometimes we need time to sit down and reflect on our own or be guided to a more ‘meaningful life’.
* Fourth Tuesday – Death
“Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody believes it.”
“The truth is . . . once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”
While reading the book, his few words hit me. Are we ready to die? Do you think you’ve done enough? Would you have been who you wanted to be and done all you wanted to do? Be involved with your life, don’t wait to get sick before you do good things, before you know your real priorities.
* Fifth Tuesday – Family
Morrie quotes the poet W.H. Auden saying, “Love each other or perish.” He would always say that love is essential for fulfillment and happiness. Indeed. Without love, we are all broken without wings.
* Sixth Tuesday – Emotions
“You know what the Buddhists say? Don’t cling to thing, because everything is impermanent.” One day, we will all learn how to detach ourselves from this world.
* Seventh Tuesday – Fear of Aging
“As you grow, you learn more. If you stayed as ignorant as you were at twenty- two, you’d always be twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know. It’s growth. It’s more than the negative that you’re going to die, it’s the positive that you understand you’re going to die, and that you live a better life because of it.”
Live in the moment and find a positive in everything.
* Eight Tuesday – Money
“The truth is, you don’t get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives you satisfaction? …Offering others what you have to give.”
There’s more to life other than money or material things. He emphasizes that loving and being compassionate gives us purpose and meaning.
* Ninth Tuesday – How Love Goes On
Morrie says if people can feel love, they will feel and remember it. “It keeps you alive, even after you’re gone.”
* Tenth Tuesday – Marriage
In this chapter it was emphasized that finding a loving relationship is so important, a partner to live and take the world with.
* Eleventh Tuesday – Culture
Every culture has its own problems, he told that his biggest problem with most cultures is its inability to visualize and utilize its potential. He mentioned that we should “invest in people“.
“Take my condition. The things I am supposed to be embarrassed about now — not being able to walk, not being able to wipe my ass, waking up some mornings wanting to cry — there is nothing innately embarrassing about them. It’s the same for women not being thin enough, or men not being rich enough. It’s just what our culture would have you believe. Don’t believe it.”
Stay focused on your values, and don’t be easily brainwashed by the opinion of the society. Take a stand.
* Twelfth Tuesday – Forgiveness
“Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.”
He says that it is vital to forgive yourself and others, however it will take time and you must overcome it or die in regrets. There is no point in holding vengeance and pride, it will just cause you a heavy heart, everyday of your life.
* Thirteenth Tuesday – Perfect Day
Morrie uses a metaphor, a hibiscus plant, saying that “everything born will die.”
Just like us, we all bloom in our own time, like having a glowing skin and time will come all this beauty will be gone, it will fade away.
Maybe death will end our lives, but relationship won’t. Love shown and memories shared, will always be remembered.
As much as I wanted to continue Tuesdays with Morrie, on the fourteenth Tuesday, he was really in a bad shape lying in bed when Mitch arrived. They didn’t talked, he just gave him farewell kiss and cries. On Saturday, Morrie died and Mitch faces his own now carrying his life lessons.
Losing someone closed to you was really hard. When it happened to me, it was like dying as well. My heart was crushed and my dreams were shattered. I was afraid that the “Morrie” in my life was gone, who will guide me? Who will listen to me? I had to face it with patience and courage. I had to accept the fact that all good things come to an end.
We are all born in one day, and everything can happen in one day.
This book is reality, take the chance to read it.
PS. I shared my book to six people, five of them read and learned from it. The other person missed his chance. 🙂
1 SparkNotes Editors. “SparkNote on Tuesdays with Morrie.” SparkNotes.com. SparkNotes LLC. n.d.. Web. 7 Oct. 2015.
2 Good Reads, (https://www.goodreads.com/)